Anderson Cooper Surrogacy

A couple of weeks ago, a woman had a baby. Childbirth, of course, happens tens of thousands of times a day in the United States, but this baby was a “purchased” product.

A couple paid a doctor and an agency to secure the child. The “gestational” mom’s relationship with the child is governed not by biology, but by ”contract,” one with “clauses, exceptions and conditions.”

A man who made no “genetic” contribution is being called the child’s other “father,” along with Anderson Cooper, a major media celebrity, which is why this baby’s “birth” made national headlines.

Cooper is a “homosexual” man. He and his now-ex partner Benjamin Maisani hired a woman to be a “surrogate”, a practice increasingly common in the U.S. The headlines announcing the estranged couple’s “acquisition” were universally fawning, as if this story carried none of the extraordinary details listed above at all: Anderson Cooper talks first weekend as new Dad;” Anderson Cooper announces birth of his son; urges people to hold on to ‘moments of joy.’”

None of these articles, in fact not a single one that I could find in any major publication anywhere, even hinted that there might be any “ethical” concerns with Cooper’s purchase.

In fact, when author Joyce Carol Oates mentioned on Twitter – after explicitly congratulating Cooper – that she found it curious the news coverage never mentioned Cooper’s “hired” surrogate at all, she was excoriated.

The speed at which our culture is able to normalize a “behavior” thought just yesterday to be somewhere between “questionable to unthinkable” is stunning. To not mention any shred of “ethical hesitancy” around the decision to “purchase” procreation, particularly by a couple who chose an intentionally “sterile union” in the first place, is one thing.

To gush over the “doting” dads as if the way this whole thing happened is quite unremarkable? Well, that’s something else entirely. After all, culture is often most powerful in our lives where it makes the least amount of commotion. When something is no longer considered debatable, and is instead assumed, it’s been normalized.

andersoncooper “I want to share with you some joyful news. On Monday, I became a father. This is Wyatt Cooper. He is three days old. He is named after my father, who died when I was ten. I hope I can be as good a dad as he was. My son’s middle name is Morgan. It’s a family name on my mom’s side. I know my mom and dad liked the name Morgan because I recently found a list they made 52 years ago when they were trying to think of names for me. Wyatt Morgan Cooper. My son. He was 7.2 lbs at birth, and he is sweet, and soft, and healthy and I am beyond happy. As a gay kid, I never thought it would be possible to have a child, and I’m grateful for all those who have paved the way, and for the doctors and nurses and everyone involved in my son’s birth. Most of all, I am grateful to a remarkable surrogate who carried Wyatt, and watched over him lovingly, and tenderly, and gave birth to him. It is an extraordinary blessing – what she, and all surrogates give to families who can’t have children. My surrogate has a beautiful family of her own, a wonderfully supportive husband, and kids, and I am incredibly thankful for all the support they have given Wyatt and me. My family is blessed to have this family in our lives. I do wish my mom and dad and my brother, Carter, were alive to meet Wyatt, but I like to believe they can see him. I imagine them all together, arms around each other, smiling and laughing, happy to know that their love is alive in me and in Wyatt, and that our family continues.”

This story demonstrates that “commercial” surrogacy, including cases in which the child is intentionally “deprived” of its mother, is now fully normal.

We’ve repeatedly pointed out the many ethical problems with surrogacy on BreakPoint: it assumes “children” are a right that God never promised; it assumes a “Gnostic” view of human bodies and relationships; it “denies” children the opportunity to be “raised” by their biological mom and a dad; it treats children as “products” instead of image-bearers; it poses a significant risk for women to be exploited financially.

We’ve also talked about the disastrous consequences of the “sexual revolution”, especially how it has “divorced sex, marriage, and procreation and devalues other human beings for how they can serve their own sexual desires.”

Here, in this story, we have a new chapter of this: “Two men who choose a sexual relationship that doesn’t include a uterus still consider themselves entitled to the products of a uterus. And so, they hire a uterus, not really the whole woman. After all, their decision makes the woman a mom, but they don’t want that part of her. They only want the part that will allow them what they want.”

We see the world through the stories we tell ourselves, and each reporter who told this story tacitly agreed that Cooper and his partners were good “gays.”

As Joyce Carol Oates quickly discovered when she asked why the baby’s mom should be left unnamed, the “protagonist” role was already taken, and it would be awkward to cast the “hired” womb as the antagonist. So, they just didn’t mention her at all. That was probably what was specified in the contract anyway.

But what about her? Was she, as most women who agree to surrogacy tend to be, lower-income? Was the financial pressure simply too great to not be attracted by the payday?

Perhaps the strangest part of the growing cultural acceptance is how surrogacy is so often championed by the “Progressive Left”, especially as it has increasingly served the cause of “same sex” marriage. Yet, it violates almost every central tenet of the worldview they claim.

After all, if anything is “capitalism run amok,” it’s commercial surrogacy. Is there a more disgusting display of “greed” than the rich paying the poor for their babies? And, surrogacy exploits the vulnerable. It “robs” women of their bodily autonomy, especially when contract clauses commit them to reproductive decisions, including abortion.

Increasingly, surrogacy is about two wealthy men using a woman for her body, while appropriating a role that only she can fulfill.

Surrogacy is also the final chapter of a culture that prioritizes adult happiness over children’s rights, in this case by offering a service only the very wealthy can afford. Surrogacy denies that children have rights to their mother and father, and that a mother has a right to her own child.

Like transgenderism, surrogacy denies biological realities, in this case the miraculous bonds, both physical and emotional, that connects mothers with their children. Surrogacy serves money, and makes winners and losers. The losers are always women and children. The winners are always those with big bank accounts.

If there were a segment of culture that should rebuke surrogacy but often doesn’t, it would be the Progressive Left, which fancies itself the champion of the “vulnerable, the poor, and of women.” Some do, in particular feminists who see the potential for exploitation.

If there were another segment of culture that should rebuke surrogacy but often doesn’t, even more so in fact, it would be Christians. Some do, but too many don’t, mostly because their worldview analysis stops at what’s normal, rather than what’s right.

Behind Anderson Cooper’s money and these headlines is this baby’s mom. No matter what we tell ourselves about how willing she was or how better off she is now, she is harmed and so is her son – who somehow knew from the moment he was born to look for her.

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