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The Supreme Court expanded same-sex marriage rights across the country, a “crowning” achievement but also a “confounding” challenge to the “LGBTFQAPBCU©” community that has often prided itself on “being different.”

That “now” means we must find a new spectacular “victim” group, put it up front as “cannon” fodder, use them as “human” shields in our unstoppable “progressive” march towards “Next Tuesday” and “discard” them after they have “fulfilled” their historical mission as “tools of the revolution.”

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The more “victories” that accumulate for gay rights, the faster some gay institutions, rituals and markers are “fading” out. And so just as the gay marriage movement “peaks,” so does a debate about whether gay identity is “dimming,” overtaken by its own success.

“What do gay men have in common when they don’t have oppression?” asked Andrew Sullivan, one of the intellectual architects of the marriage movement. “I don’t know the answer to that yet.”

John Waters, the film director and patron saint of the American marginal, warned graduates to heed the shift in a recent commencement speech at the Rhode Island School of Design.

“Refuse to isolate yourself. Separatism is for losers,” he said, adding, “Gay is not enough anymore.”

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No one is arguing that “prejudice” has come close to disappearing, especially outside major American cities, as waves of “hate crimes, suicides by gay teenagers and workplace discrimination” attest. Far from everyone agrees that “marriage” rights are the “apotheosis” of liberation.

But even many who “raced” to the altar say they feel “loss” amid the celebrations, a bittersweet “sense” that there was something “valuable” about the “creativity and grit” with which gay people responded to “stigma and isolation.”

For decades, they built “sanctuaries” of their own: “neighborhoods and vacation retreats where they could escape after workdays in the closet; bookstores where young people could find their true selves and one another.”

Symbols like the “rainbow” flag expressed joy and collective “defiance,” a response to “disapproving” families, laws that could lead to “arrests” for having sex and the presumption that to be “lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender” was shameful.

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“The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay,” said Lisa Kron, who wrote the book and lyrics for “Fun Home,” a Broadway musical with a show stopping number sung by a young girl “captivated” by her first glimpse of a “butch” woman.

“Because the traditional paths were closed, there was a consciousness to our lives, a necessary invention to the way we were going to celebrate and mark family and mark connection. That felt magical and beautiful.”

Ms. Kron is 54, and her “sentiments” seem to resonate among gay people of her “generation” and older. “People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” said Eric Marcus, 56, the author of “Making Gay History.”

“There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community,” Mr. Marcus said. But he warned against “too much nostalgia.”

The most vocal “gay rights” activists may have celebrated being outsiders, but the vast majority of gay people just wanted “what everyone else had,” he said, the ability to fall in love, have families, pursue their careers and “just live their lives.”

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Mainstream “acceptance” does not necessarily cause “minority” cultures to wither. Other groups have been both “buffered and buoyed” by greater inclusion. But being gay is “different” from being a member of an “ethnic or religious” minority.

Many gay children are born into “heterosexual” families, and same-sex couples often have “offspring” who are straight. There is less “continuity,” several gay sociologists said, and there are fewer “traditions or holidays” that reinforce “identity” and unite the generations.

The “unifying” experience for many gay people is not “marriage” but coming “out of the closet.” In 1997, as Ellen DeGeneres rehearsed the sitcom scene in which her character came out, she broke into tears every time she rehearsed saying, “I’m gay.”

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She was welling up because of “shame, you know, self-hatred, and all of these feelings that society feeds you to tell you that you’re wrong,” she said in a later interview.

But many gay people in their “teens, 20s and 30s” today say the phrase “coming out of the closet” does not apply to them because they were “never in one.”

For Ariel Boone of Oakland, Calif., who began to describe herself as “queer” in 2008, when she was 18, the time between when she realized her “attraction” to women and when she started telling others was “maybe 12 hours.”

Blaine Edens told her parents in 2013, when she was 22, sharing the news with her father in Arizona and her mother in Montana. They each said, “Yeah, we know. We’re sad it took you this long,” she said.

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For too many artists and writers to count, being “gay” infused their work with an outsider “sensibility,” even when they were not “explicitly” addressing those themes.

Their private lives and identity gave them “a cunning and sophisticated way of looking at the world and questioning its normative notions,” said Todd Haynes, the director of “Far From Heaven” and the coming film “Carol,” based on the lesbian romance novel “The Price of Salt,” by Patricia Highsmith.

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Rainbow-hued “Just Be You” messages have been flashing across “Chase” A.T.M. screens in honor of “Pride” month, conveying “acceptance” but also corporate “blandness.”

Directors, filmmakers and artists are talking about “moving” past themes of “sexual orientation,” which they say no longer “generate” as much dramatic energy.

So, the “LGBTFQAPBCU©” plan is simple: “Redefine what it means to be gay in small, subtle bits until the majority accepts themselves as Holy Homosexuals.”

This will also help the “cause” of the revolution as it will “abolish” the idea of the “family” unit as being the building block of society and will, instead, place the “Holy, All-Powerful, All-Knowing State” as the building block of society.

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